Time heals all wounds ( Or not ) ?

July 19, 2020

We all have Thanatophobia - ( Fear of loosing someone ) I have often notice people giving grieve advice when they loose there near one, You need some time, everything will be fine, Time will heal all your wounds

It sounds like "Just sit back, and in time you will no longer have the sadness , guilt , fear, anger , memories which you are feeling right now " They will fade with the time and you will be fine

woo-ww, is it ? but this approach of grieving raise couple of questions to my head

1. How long is these sometime 2 months , 4 months , 1 year , 5 years ?

2. Why doesn't these apply to the rest of our lives ?

3.Will time really heal all my wounds ? well I don't think so .....

Apparently many Physical wounds can be healed by Time,but Emotional wounds are complex you can't place band-aids on your emotions , By looking at the person's physical pain we can estimate that how much pain the person is suffering and how much medical attention he likely needs. when we are hurt we always think irrationally, we always react , we cry , we lash out , The pain shocks us We might not tell anyone that it hurts, we may not be able to admit that we need help, It is very important to understand that healing process needs time

Few years back my friend lost her parents, talking to her I realized how she found it very difficult to talk, or even think without bursting into tears To keep herself under control she kept herself very busy, at home she started keeping herself busy by cleaning her apartment she started doing whatever she could do to distract herself from what she already knew - Digesting the fact that her parents are no longer with her she was running from her grief. Finally she realized she has to do something for her, Time had done nothing for her, Time had just been her enemy. It was her who decided to move on and digest the fact. Her frantic behavior has ceased now, Her very first step was to accept ,digest and move on with the life, she started living with the vision of being an doctor ( exactly the way her dad had a vision to see her daughter becoming a successful doctor ) The point here is that ' Time does not heal all wounds ' It is what you do with the time that heals ....